diff --git a/app/assets/stylesheets/application.css b/app/assets/stylesheets/application.css
index 678ca52..8028e31 100644
--- a/app/assets/stylesheets/application.css
+++ b/app/assets/stylesheets/application.css
@@ -131,11 +131,11 @@ button.action:hover {
 }
 
 .needs_pwd {
-    display: none;
+    display: none !important;
 }
 
 .needs_pwd.shown {
-    display: block;
+    display: block !important;
 }
 
 .action.shown {
@@ -265,3 +265,10 @@ span#password {
 .fairy-dot.unclaimed:hover {
     cursor: pointer;
 }
+
+.despawn-note {
+    color: tomato;
+    font-size: 10px;
+    font-weight: normal;
+    margin-bottom: 5px;
+}
diff --git a/app/controllers/fairy_controller.rb b/app/controllers/fairy_controller.rb
index ebe5e76..50815fd 100644
--- a/app/controllers/fairy_controller.rb
+++ b/app/controllers/fairy_controller.rb
@@ -2,15 +2,13 @@ class FairyController < ApplicationController
   def mark
     instance_id, location = mark_params
     instance = Instance.find_by(public_id: instance_id)
-    fairy = Fairy.new(location: location, instance_id: instance.id)
-    unless params[:pwd]
-      fairy.is_suggested = true
+    if params[:pwd]
+      fairy = Fairy.new(location: location, instance_id: instance.id)
+      fairy.save
     end
 
-    if fairy.save
-      new_instance = Instance.includes(:fairies).find(instance.id)
-      render partial: "instance/fairies", locals: { instance: new_instance }
-    end
+    new_instance = Instance.includes(:fairies).find(instance.id)
+    render partial: "instance/fairies", locals: { instance: new_instance }
   end
 
   def unmark
@@ -24,6 +22,15 @@ class FairyController < ApplicationController
   end
 
   def despawn
+    instance_id, location = mark_params
+    instance = Instance.find_by(public_id: instance_id)
+    fairy = Fairy.find_by(instance_id: instance.id, location: location)
+    unless fairy.is_despawned
+      fairy.is_despawned = true
+      fairy.save
+      new_instance = Instance.includes(:fairies).find(instance.id)
+      render partial: "instance/fairies", locals: { instance: new_instance }
+    end
   end
 
   private
diff --git a/app/views/instance/_fairies.html.erb b/app/views/instance/_fairies.html.erb
index 045994a..e5df2a8 100644
--- a/app/views/instance/_fairies.html.erb
+++ b/app/views/instance/_fairies.html.erb
@@ -72,10 +72,24 @@
               hx-select="#fairies"
             >
               remove</div>
+            <% unless instance.fairies[idx].is_despawned %>
+              <div
+                class="copyable action no_pwd"
+                hx-post="/fairy/despawn?instance=<%= instance.public_id %>&location=<%= instance.fairies[idx].location %>"
+                hx-swap="outerHTML"
+                hx-target="#fairies"
+                hx-select="#fairies"
+              >
+                gone?
+              </div>
+            <% end %>
           </div>
         </div>
+        <% if instance.fairies[idx].is_despawned %>
+          <span class="despawn-note">potentially despawned!</span>
+        <% end %>
       <% end %>
-      <div class="note">Click on a black dot to mark another Elemental.</div>
+      <div class="needs_pwd note">Click on a black dot to mark another Elemental.</div>
       <div class="note">
         <div
           class="copyable"
diff --git a/config/routes.rb b/config/routes.rb
index 32330b7..664e131 100644
--- a/config/routes.rb
+++ b/config/routes.rb
@@ -7,6 +7,7 @@ Rails.application.routes.draw do
   post "/auth", to: "instance#authenticate", as: :authenticate_to_instance
   post "/fairy/mark", to: "fairy#mark", as: :mark_fairy
   post "/fairy/unmark", to: "fairy#unmark", as: :unmark_fairy
+  post "/fairy/despawn", to: "fairy#despawn", as: :despawn_fairy
   get "/:public_id", to: "instance#show", as: :show_instance
 
   get "up" => "rails/health#show", as: :rails_health_check